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Live Every Day Like It's the Last!

Live Every Day Like It's the Last!

It was a shocking news that rippled through my Secondary school’s whatsapp groups. First, it was the shock.  When the shock had passed, questions surfaced. But then, no one knew the answer.  Anyway, the answer was inconsequential, because it didn’t matter anymore. I have not seen her since we left school.

In my memory, she was a warm and friendly person.  She always wore a smile on her face and was ever approachable to all. She always had something nice to say to everyone. Her results were superb and I assume that she was also extremely capable at work because she was holding a c-level post at a renowned medical institution. She was only 40 when she passed on, leaving behind a 9 year old child. Many people were grieving for her because she was such a warm and loving person.

She was one of the few people who have passed away in their prime.  It was always unexpected. I guess they didn’t expect that themselves either.

It’s always these shocking events that make me drop everything that I was doing, take a break from my ever hectic schedule (this is self-inflicted), to ponder over what I have achieved and what I really want to attain.

Life is too short :

To be doing things that don’t make me happy.

To be spent on undeserving people who are ungrateful.

To be complaining about every single things that doesn’t go my way.

To be pandering to the whims of people who don’t matter to me.

To be wasted on fighting over little things with petty people.

It’s time :

To say no to things that don’t bring me joy.

To be with my loved ones and people who matter to me, especially my grandmother and parents who are getting on in years.

To ignore nincompoops and beasts.

To fulfill my bucket list.

To indulge in some self pampering.

It’s time to live every single day as though it’s my last. Live life with no regrets!

Rest in Peace, my friend.

Good-bye Ah Ma!

Good-bye Ah Ma!

It’s been a week of yo-yo emotions, especially for my Mom, uncles, aunties and cousins.

My Ah Ma was sent to the hospital for a very minor procedure, to clear the blood vessels in her legs as her toes were turning gangrene. Little did we know that, the trip to the hospital was one of no return.

When we visited her one day before her procedure, she was still up and cheery. Even after her procedure, my parents visited in the afternoon and she was able to talk to them.

On that very evening, she suddenly had cardiac arrest and kidney failure. Til now, we don’t really know what happened. Then came a period of ups and downs. One moment the doctors claimed she was recovering, then the next, she was not going to make it. And finally, she left us on 23 sep. When the doctors declared that she was brain dead and it was decided that she be taken off the life support. Slowly, over a few hours, life ebbed out of her.

I hope that she had gone painlessly and peacefully. Although I’d never been as close to her as some of my cousins, who were looked after by her, were, but I was truly grateful to her. For without her, there wouldn’t have been me.

She’s led a blessed life, surrounded by loved ones and she’s given life to 4 generations of us, 39 of us.

Thank you Ah Ma and good bye!

Walking down memory lane…

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Her orbituary

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Oct 2013 – celebrating her last birthday with her, together with 9 months old 小小宝贝.

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All of us -3rd and 4th generation

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That’s us, more than 2 decades ago…

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Ah ma, when she was hale and hearty.

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A very youthful Ah Ma! Everyone’s young once.

We will always have you in our hearts.

Cherish your loved ones. Live in the present.