My friend told me that I could do whatever I want, for my wedding dinner and that included inviting whoever I wanted. He said, “After all, it is YOUR wedding, that is your right to do so!” But, Cheong, do you know how wrong you are?!
Sadly, that is not a reality of life. To create this once in a lifetime, perfect moment, I have to scrimp and save every cent. This includes eating cheap meals, not buying the things, which I badly want…..only to find that, at the end of the day, I cannot choose with whom I want to enjoy this moment.
50% of the guests who will be there, will be people whom I have probably not met in my entire life and will attend the function for reasons which I can never fathom in a hundred years. To them, it will probably be a normal meal to meet up with friends or relatives whom they have not talked to for the last decade.
Since they have never ever set eyes upon me or my partner, there is no reason for them to be here at all! I resent the fact that I am the one who has to pay for their little gathering. YES! YES I DO RESENT the fact that I have to scrimp and save for a bunch of people who do not give a damn about this most important day of my life! I do not mind spending the money on people who genuinely care about me.
However, if I were to hold it at a place which I do not genuinely like, or if I have to cut down on other expense just to pay for these freeloaders, that would be short-changing myself! I want everything to be perfect for this very day!
For goodness sake, this is my wedding dinner! Why does it have to be a stupid gathering for long distance relatives!!!!!!!! Can’t they just hold their little luncheon at some other place and time!
*At this moment of time, I amd really pissed off and feel like spewing some really, awfully, extremely, absolutely vulgar phrases! What the FISH!!!*